1. Denial
An unwillingness to accept responsibility for
the poor results of choices and behaviors.
Blames others for their failures.
Excuse themselves because of some event, or combination
of events, occurring in their past lives.
Always has an excuse or an explanation.
2. Explanations
Wants to 'explain' their life story with extensive references supporting #1.
3. Vision
Can not fathom that others can see them
as they truly are and continually attempts to exploit the
theory that 'they don't have a clue'.
Can not see themselves as they truly are
as the limit of their vision is formed under the boundaries
of #1.
4. Repetitions
Lives life as though on a merry go round.; doing
the same things the same way endlessly and irregardless
of the behavioral history of failure attached
to the given endeavor.
Expect others to fill up their lives.
Life is a question of filling up time - not of
living life.
Only rarely does the Non Ascendant indulge a
behavior that has not been employed many times before.
5. Truth
Seen as a variable that can change from moment
to moment given the need of a particular moment.
Lying is okay if it serves the needs of a moment.
Pursuant to #1 and #3, the Non Ascendant will
expect you to believe you are a special character and
they won't lie to you.
Why tell the truth when a lie will suffice.
6. Confrontations
When confronted with the falsities of the operational
premises supporting #1 and #3, the Non Ascendant
typically runs to avoid.
Will become angry and resentful when confronted
with their behaviors and will ultimately plot some 'pay back'.
7. People
Are objects to be used. If for no better purpose
than filling up the emptiness of the NA's life.
NA's are users not givers and always take more
than they give.
When inclined towards giving, it is always a
bargain and the NA will serve up only the minimum necessary to
maintain their taker's advantage.
8. Love
NA's are incapable of true love.
Love is a bargaining and a word to be used in
bargaining.
The NA may give lip service to love and service
to others, however, the bargains always require they
'receive' first, last and always.
9. Avoidance
The avenue of first recourse.
Always takes the path of least resistance.
10. Integrity
Not a possibility to the NA mindset. Just a word to be used in the event of a need.
11. Sex
Self gratification.
A tool to be used.
12. Parasitic
Will attach to a host that fills any of the NA's
requirements for time fulfillment.
Will bleed you dry if you give them half a chance.
13. Rationalizations
Has an abundance of reasons for why they hurt and exploit others.
14. Success
The vast majority of NA's are not successful -
there are, of course, exceptions.
The lack of success begins to become apparent
to the NA in their forties. Regardless, the realization
is generally insufficient to inspire change.
15. Salvation
Generally, the NA will not even consider a change
in behavior until they've reached the bottom of the
barrel and only when the choices are life or
death. Only then does salvation become a possibility.
16. Fear
At the root of all Non Ascendancy is Fear.
17. Religion
Generally a waste of time until the bottom of the barrel has been reached.
18. Inspiration
The NA can not find inspiration at the hands of a person
willing to be used by the NA.
The NA has no capacity for the appreciation of gifts
offered by the well intended.
19. The NA serves only the 'ME'. 'WE' is not a possibility
unless it is in service to the 'ME'.
'YOU' exist only to the limit of the NA's 'ME'.